{"id":1046,"date":"2024-03-17T18:57:00","date_gmt":"2024-03-17T18:57:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/cogitateandpercolate.com\/?p=1046"},"modified":"2026-06-29T14:09:15","modified_gmt":"2026-06-29T14:09:15","slug":"diversity-training-gone-bad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/cogitateandpercolate.com\/?p=1046","title":{"rendered":"Diversity training gone bad"},"content":{"rendered":"<\/p>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/img\/b\/R29vZ2xl\/AVvXsEiplWwoEZPV6IcOcJpj__dtCPUek8Gce7WI620Hs7b9PJBiw1y7gF_8XBQC79kRUGULIZYoOuTqvKBn6popIbRvpc9dtbcEDklZ_WGK4sJ4IrYwO6ZFZfVQzBr2GNKFkPCo8aNfIaiSt828coUpIZg2LiXr1tFtpBcBHYQQ4cvNRkAS5oyMDrOAKTMsM3Y\/s400\/Ive%20got%20to%20do%20what%20Ive%20got%20to%20do%20Robin%20Williams%20Mrs%20Doubtfire.gif\" style=\"margin-left: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Gif from Mrs. Doubtfire with Robin Williams saying the line Then I&apos;ve got to do, What I&apos;ve got to do.\" border=\"0\" data-original-height=\"169\" data-original-width=\"400\" height=\"135\" data-src=\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/img\/b\/R29vZ2xl\/AVvXsEiplWwoEZPV6IcOcJpj__dtCPUek8Gce7WI620Hs7b9PJBiw1y7gF_8XBQC79kRUGULIZYoOuTqvKBn6popIbRvpc9dtbcEDklZ_WGK4sJ4IrYwO6ZFZfVQzBr2GNKFkPCo8aNfIaiSt828coUpIZg2LiXr1tFtpBcBHYQQ4cvNRkAS5oyMDrOAKTMsM3Y\/w320-h135\/Ive%20got%20to%20do%20what%20Ive%20got%20to%20do%20Robin%20Williams%20Mrs%20Doubtfire.gif\" width=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" class=\"lazyload\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 320px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 320\/135;\" \/><\/p>\n<p><\/a><\/div>\n<p>I&#8217;ve been sitting on this blog post idea for awhile. But it&#8217;s St. Patrick&#8217;s Day and some good hearted self-deprecating humor has come before me. So while THIS story isn&#8217;t about being self-deprecating (I wish it was!), this story is about making fun of a culture.<\/p>\n<p>One of my very frequent job duties as a mid-level manager at a university was to translate directives that came from above down to the underlings.&nbsp; Sometimes that was easy. Sometimes it was hard. Sometimes it was ridiculous.<\/p>\n<p>In one of those moments where I was in a discussion with my team about what to do about some new directive, near the end of the phone conference discussion, I rolled off the line &#8220;You&#8217;ve got to do, what you&#8217;ve got to do&#8221; a riff on &#8220;Then I&#8217;ve got to do, what I&#8217;ve got to do&#8221; from Robin Williams in Mrs. Doubtfire when he&#8217;s quitting a job.&nbsp; <\/p>\n<p>The line in the movie essentially says that sometimes when you are stuck between a rock and a hard place, you have to pick the right thing to do <i>even when it isn&#8217;t easy<\/i>.&nbsp; If you remember the scene, Robin Williams is mimicking Gandhi&#8217;s voice.&nbsp; To me, it immediately conjured non-violent peaceful protest.&nbsp; And it was the vibe I was leading with with my team. If we weren&#8217;t going to fully do the directive, we had our good reasons not to.<\/p>\n<p>After that meeting, one of my team members wanted to talk about that during our 1:1 private phone call. They proceeded to tell me that that line was, essentially racist, because I said it with the Indian accent. She told me that it was inappropriate. I started to get the idea that they were really serious about what they had said (and had totally missed the movie reference) when they stopped talking and let out a big &#8220;wow, that&#8217;s done&#8221; sigh.<\/p>\n<p>I was&#8230;flabbergasted.&nbsp; I wasn&#8217;t quite sure where to start. I thought the line was actually complimentary. I mean, Gandhi is a person that humanity reveres. We aspire to be like him. He was a good man. How could mimicking his accent be slurring him?&nbsp; It was a phone conference, I want to be clear on that point. I didn&#8217;t make any visible head shakes or any other references to Indian culture.&nbsp; And the line itself is about facing a very important, difficult choice and still choosing to do the right thing. But I had a feeling that none of these finer points would help at this moment with the person.<\/p>\n<p>So I asked them a little bit more about WHAT exactly they found offensive. They quickly answered, &#8220;There were no Indians in the room.&#8221;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Oh, I said, so it felt like I was mocking Indians with the accent?<\/p>\n<p>Yes, they said. When they are not in the room, you can&#8217;t do that.<\/p>\n<p>I moved quick on my mental feet.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>So anyone using an accent of a person NOT in the room is offensive.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, they said. <\/p>\n<p>I explained that accents are part of communicating online and verbally on phone calls. I find that they enrich the story and add depth (and I&#8217;d used them&#8211; infrequently &#8212; with students in the past for years) especially when the accent adds depth to the story.&nbsp; I find online teaching involves a great deal of performance and acting. But I kept at their point with them.<\/p>\n<p>So you are from the Boston area and there&#8217;s a pretty distinct accent there. If I had used a Boston accent, it would be OK because you were in the room?<\/p>\n<p>Yes, they said quickly.<\/p>\n<p>OK. At this point, I wrapped the discussion. I apologized that no offense was intended and indeed, I never used that accent with that group ever again.<\/p>\n<p>But I had the sudden and stark feeling that an attempted &#8220;schooling&#8221; had just happened to me by a person who attended Day 1, Hour 1 of diversity training <i>and then no more training.<\/i><\/p>\n<p>You see, their second example actually showed what the problem was.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>You see, <b>if accents are used derogatorily, it wouldn&#8217;t matter who or who was not in the room.&nbsp; Bad form is simply bad form.<br \/><\/b><\/p>\n<p>But in their own example, <u>they privileged their own accent<\/u> as &#8220;OK to be made fun of&#8221; and I&#8230;actually&#8230;found that offensive. Boston isn&#8217;t where I&#8217;m from, but I do consider it a nearby city.<\/p>\n<p>So <b>it&#8217;s NOT OK WITH ME to make fun of anyone&#8217;s accent.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>But I wasn&#8217;t making fun with my line. I was quoting Robin Williams who was quoting Gandhi. GANDHI.&nbsp; That&#8217;s far from making fun or speaking derogatorily.&nbsp; I went over this story with a lawyer friend afterwards just to make sure I wasn&#8217;t crazy and she reminded me of Gandhi&#8217;s human rights and lawyer background himself. His quotes are always about the betterment of people. It would be almost impossible to use a Gandhi quote in a slur. There just isn&#8217;t material.<br \/>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I would have a severe problem with anyone making fun of their Boston accent of anyone else&#8217;s accent in or out of the room. Their allowance that making fun of their own accent showed me that they didn&#8217;t understand diversity and inclusion.<\/p>\n<p>Sign. Bother. Face Palm.&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/img\/b\/R29vZ2xl\/AVvXsEjJYoWI2-UOlkZZDt_WX0uBeLvYfN0MM9585Qxl_cIOwXkmJQIyiTda11ViYD5a-K7XdZ5buHaS6Lz5es2DQdheXkEYOkr_7TP42aqidWvt8IEB6EpOER6Swx7L7KijEyJuQ1Zja238MEkmTp0Tz13ebj54zwiIMdh6oWSmum9etUV9tkgrBk-82LiR958\/w320-h320\/Face%20palm.gif\" style=\"margin-left: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"Gif of Rober Downey Jr doing a face palm with the words Dear God Please Help Us...\" border=\"0\" data-original-height=\"640\" data-original-width=\"640\" height=\"320\" data-src=\"https:\/\/blogger.googleusercontent.com\/img\/b\/R29vZ2xl\/AVvXsEjJYoWI2-UOlkZZDt_WX0uBeLvYfN0MM9585Qxl_cIOwXkmJQIyiTda11ViYD5a-K7XdZ5buHaS6Lz5es2DQdheXkEYOkr_7TP42aqidWvt8IEB6EpOER6Swx7L7KijEyJuQ1Zja238MEkmTp0Tz13ebj54zwiIMdh6oWSmum9etUV9tkgrBk-82LiR958\/w320-h320\/Face%20palm.gif\" width=\"320\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml;base64,PHN2ZyB3aWR0aD0iMSIgaGVpZ2h0PSIxIiB4bWxucz0iaHR0cDovL3d3dy53My5vcmcvMjAwMC9zdmciPjwvc3ZnPg==\" class=\"lazyload\" style=\"--smush-placeholder-width: 320px; --smush-placeholder-aspect-ratio: 320\/320;\" \/><\/a><\/div>\n<p><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I never did quite &#8220;get along&#8221; with that team member after that and (shudder) they went on to train others.&nbsp; I have no idea how well.<\/p>\n<p>But I&#8217;ll leave you with the context of the line, where an actor quits because a cartoon shows a bird smoking.<\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><span> Police! Civic authorities! ASPCA! ASAP! <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span> ***! Betrayal! Kidnapped! <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span> No, birdnapped!&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>A cup of garlic, a twist of parakeet.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Eat your heart out, Julia Child.<\/span>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp; <span>Excuse me, but isn&#8217;t it customary<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>for the jailbird to get one telephone call?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>In your case, I think not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Afternoon snacks have few civil liberties.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>But I&#8217;m not wholly without heart.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>How about a nice soothing cigarette?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Pah! Agh! Ugh!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Oh, I will not do this. I cannot!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Oh, what a foul way for a bird to die!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I don&#8217;t want to get beak cancer.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>No! My lungs are blackened!<\/span>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<span>Here we go again. Cut, cut, cut! Roll it back.<\/span>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<span>&#8211; Help me&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&#8211;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>What are you doing? Daniel&#8230;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>That line is not in the script.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Why did you add it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&#8211;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I wanted to comment on the situation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&#8211;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>What situation?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Shoving a cigarette into Pudgie&#8217;s mouth<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>is morally irresponsible.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>This is a cartoon,<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>not a friggin&#8217; Oprah Winfrey Special.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Lou, millions of kids see this cartoon.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>It&#8217;s like telling them &#8220;Light up.&#8221;<\/span>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<span>You can&#8217;t put words in Pudgie&#8217;s mouth<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>if his mouth isn&#8217;t moving.<\/span>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<span>It&#8217;s voice-over. An interior monologue.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Maybe even the voice of God.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>(imperious voice)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Pudgie, don&#8217;t smoke.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&#8211;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Actors.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&#8211;&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>What? Let&#8217;s ask the technicians.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Do you think it&#8217;s morally right<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>to promote smoking to the youth of America?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>(whistles)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>They&#8217;re biased. That&#8217;s a mistrial.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Daniel, this session<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>is costing the studio thousands.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>If you want a paycheck, stick to the script.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>If you want to play Gandhi,<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>then do it on somebody else&#8217;s time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&nbsp;<\/span><span>(as Gandhi)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Then I&#8217;ve got to do what I&#8217;ve got to do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>That&#8217;s very funny.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Where the hell are you goin&#8217;?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>If you leave, you&#8217;re not comin&#8217; back in.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I&#8217;m not takin&#8217; any crap from you, pal.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Well, in the words of Porky Pig:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>P-P-P-P-P-P-*** off, Lou.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/p>\n<p><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<div class=\"entry-summary\">\nI&#8217;ve been sitting on this blog post idea for awhile. 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